It’s wonderful to see men enjoying fatherhood. Two of my husband’s college friends emailed us to let us know their wives had given birth. Both couples and their newly born baby girls are doing fine and just in time for their first Christmas. My husband eagerly called them to send our congratulations and to let them know that, he too, would soon be a father. I gathered from overhearing the conversations there were lots of excitement all around. I’m sure it’s exciting to see the changes they’ve all gone through since their early days of college. Most of my husband’s friends are married and have children now. Only one of his friends is neither married or has any children. Before I came into the picture, I suspect my hubby and this last single frined wondered who would be the “last man standing.” I think to some degree, the hubby was relieved it wasn’t him but then again it just happened that way. Don’t think that he would get married so that he didn’t have to be the last one out there.
On the other hand, several of my college friends are still unmarried with no children. Of the ones married, they don’t have any children. What does that say when it comes of men versus women? While not all of my college friends are women, most of them are. In fact, most of my college women friends are older than I am. I used to wonder if I would ever get married but I never felt the pressure to since most of my friends were not. I think you feel the pressure when you start getting together with your friends and they show up with boyfriends or girlfriends and eventually spouses and children. I am sorry to say that I haven’t had the opportunity to meet some of my friend’s spouses or children because I rarely get back home to Hawaii. And even when I do, the trip is usually short and not convenient for friends that work. I hope that changes and the hubby and I can go there soon either before or soon after the baby is able to.